Can you reconcile spanking with feminism?
Is such a thing even possible? If asked, once upon a time I would have said I hadn’t a single feminist bone in my body. It’s only been fairly recent that I realized that wasn’t quite true. I vote religiously and will vehemently defend any woman’s right to do so. In my unswerving opinion, women are every bit equal to men. No one should be paid less, judged as less, treated as less because of their gender any more than they should because of a mental or physical handicap or the color of their skin. But does that make me a feminist?
In our house, I do the cooking, clean house, wash and fold laundry, take out the garbage and do the grocery shopping. Those are ‘wife’ jobs and I am proud to call myself a housewife. My husband mows the yard, weeds and gardens, hangs pictures and holiday decorations, makes repairs to the house (inside and out) and works on the cars when they need it. Those are ‘husband’ jobs and that’s his responsibility. It is also his responsibility to spank me both for pleasure and for discipline when I need it. And who decides that? We both do, because I can’t imagine living my life separated from the comfort of his love and authority. He is my husband, my rock, and my disciplinarian, and that all means I’m not a feminist.
Or does it?
A few years ago, I received a scolding email from a woman who took great exception to the fact that I dared to write a spanking story that took place during a period of time when women’s rights were just beginning to be a hotly fought and debated bone of national contention. Her attempts to shame me for TTWD annoyed me then and still do, frankly. Other people may not agree with what I write, but no one has the right to tell me what historical periods I may and may not put my stories in. No one has the right to tell me that I can’t write about women who enjoy being spanked by the men they love and who love them. And sure as hell, no one has the right to tell me that I should be ashamed for being a submissive in real life. I am a woman who yields to her husband’s loving authority. I kneel at his feet, kiss his hand and the implement with which he corrects me, and now and then, I’ll even wear his collar. Because I am his and my submission and consent are the gifts I have given him.
Because I am a feminist, and this is my right.
Feminism and Spanking: When SRR announced it was going to tackle this challenging topic for their next Round Table Discussion, fifteen domestic discipline authors jumped at the chance to express their views. I was not one of them, but I am more than proud to showcase their opinions on the subject here. Take a peek, leave a comment. Feminist or not, we’d love to hear from you. 🙂
Penelope Hasler: Round Table Discussion: Feminism (Not yet working, but I’m hopeful she’ll fix the link soon)